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Do You Know What You Truly Love?


Yesterday, I wrote a piece about a man’s fear of middle-age. When a man reaches that stage in his life, it can really cause him to make some pretty irrational choices. Exotic cars, a new hair-do (typically spiky), and maybe even some hair color to cover the gray – these are the things that may change in an instant once that magical (or rather, not so magical) age arrives.

If I asked the question, “What do you fear losing the most?”, how would you answer that? Would it be your spouse, your child, money? More than likely, the answer to this question actually reveals what it is that you most love.

If you responded with, “my spouse”, you are a very lucky individual. You no doubt have a very deep connection with your significant other and would take a bullet for them in a heartbeat. A relationship like that doesn’t happen very often. Consider yourself very fortunate.

If you answered the question with, “money” (as I figure many people do), I would assume that you are either in a very tight financial situation, or that you perhaps put too much value in your monetary lifestyle.

I often write about money and investing; after all, the name of this website is, “Life And My Finances”. But, understand that this is not what life is all about. Make sure that you are responsible with your money, but also make sure to give some of it away! If you are blessed, make a point to be a blessing to others.

Sometimes this is a tough question to answer, but honestly, what is it that you fear losing the most? Do you wish that you would have answered the question differently?



My name is Derek, and I have my Bachelors Degree in Finance from Grand Valley State University. After graduation, I was not able to find a job that fully utilized my degree, but I still had a passion for Finance! So, I decided to focus my passion in the stock market. I studied Cash Flows, Balance Sheets, and Income Statements, put some money into the market and saw a good return on my investment. As satisfying as this was, I still felt that something was missing. I have a passion for Finance, but I also have a passion for people. If you have a willingness to learn, I will continue to teach.


  1. Family is the most important thing to me of course. I learned from my mom that as long as the family is together, we can always work to get out of any bad situation.

    • That’s a great motto to stand by. Family is always very important, and it’s very powerful when one can stay together through anything!

  2. I have the misfortune of having lost my dad and two of my brothers. There is only me and my mom left from my family of origin. Without a doubt, I most fear losing my husband, children and mom.

    • That is definitely a valid fear. Thank you for sharing. It really makes me want to show my family how much I care about them.

  3. Recently, it has been my health… A few reminders that I am getting older such as a shoulder injury not healing as fast after playing hockey or a blood pressure on the rise. Having my health changing is worrying. If I was to be affected more dramatically, I wouldn’t be able to enjoy time with my family, children and their grand-children some day.

    • Health is very important. I know it’s often said that a rich man that has worked himself to his deathbead would trade back all of his money if he could just get back his health. Hope your shoulder heals up!

  4. I have learned in my life – that money is what it is – a tool in life – that is it. Just one more thing we need! Always great to have a steady income that is not a paycheck I worked for! Love your lifestyle!

    • Great advice Diane. Money is a tool. I figure that once I have more of it, I can finally think less about it. What do you think?

  5. What do I fear loosing the most? My life! I love my life….it could be worse it could be better – one never knows what the future holds…no matter how much planning, etc goes into it, we still do not know what is around the next corner! I can go anywhere and survive anywhere – I have lived with alot, lost alot, and lived with virtually nothing – I still just want to keep living! Life is great with all the ups and downs….just always remember – there will be all kinds of good and bad surprises in life!

    • Great attitude Diane! Life is certainly a blast, whether we have money or not! For me, friendships make all the difference.

  6. Spouse and our health…we are getting older…

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