Why I’m Ignoring My Budget For The Rest of the Month



Usually, I’m an avid supporter of all things related to having (and maintaining) a budget. However, for the remainder of this month, I’m choosing to throw my budget out the window. Granted, there are only 12 days left in the month but I haven’t thrown caution to the wind like this in over 8 years so this decision didn’t come lightly for me.

Why on Earth Would a Self-Professed Lover of Budgets Blow Hers Off?

For any of you who read my blog, The Happy Homeowner, you know that I live in Boston. And while I typically pride myself on my sunny disposition and positive, supportive blog posts, right now I find myself unable to exude the breezy confidence I usually have. I’m also a runner, and I was at the marathon on Monday. If you’re connecting the dots right now, you’d be correct in your assumption that this has been a pretty devastating week. While I’m physically fine, the emotions of Monday’s unspeakable tragedy are still weighing me down.

Therefore, I’ve decided that my time with my friends and fellow runners is worth more than money right now. Obviously, I’m still maintaining my drive to meet my financial goals for the month so I won’t be going on any spur of the moment trips or spending sprees, but I’m moving forward in a way that incorporates more down time and less arduous focus on the financial nitty gritty.

How I Plan to Meet My Goals without a Budget

Even though I need a bit of breathing room right now, I’d be silly to completely blow everything out of the water in terms of my finances. What I’m planning to do is to loosen the purse strings just enough that I’m able to more freely enjoy this much-needed bonding time. This means that my usual tendency to pass on social outings in lieu of my budget will absolutely fall to the wayside.

The $50 dinner that didn’t quite fit in the “dining out” line item last week? I’ll be spending that freely tonight (and tipping the waitstaff handsomely) because I won’t be buying the new running shoes I planned to purchase next week. The $30-40 on food/drinks and the $40 race fee for two charity events raising money that will go to the victims of the bombings? I’ll be taking that money from my “gasoline” line item and biking to/from wherever I need to be for the next 12 days.

In essence, I’m trading my priorities. For me, that’s what a budget is truly all about: Being able to manage and balance your money in a fluid way that allows for all of life’s sudden changes and challenges. At the end of the month, I’ll still be able to meet my savings and retirement goals. I’ll also be able to pay all of my bills on time, and I may even have a bit leftover to funnel to more charitable giving.

The Weight of Personal Finance

As personal finance bloggers and those who are actively interested in managing our finances responsibly, I know there is always a struggle between keeping your nose to the grindstone and living your life when life dictates doing so. I hope that by sharing my unorthodox choice to abandon my budget for a short period of time, I’m helping to illustrate that it is OK to give yourself  a breather from time to time. Sometimes, it’s simply more important to take care of your emotions and your fellow people than it is to obsess over every little number.


This post was written by Jen, a staff writer from The Happy Homeowner

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  1. Hey Jen, I really don’t know how to thank you! You just spoke my mind as you told to ignore the budget. You know what at times, it’s really very important to pay a heed to your emotions and not to your calculative mind!

  2. Wow, hope you are coping as well as you can. My cousin ran the race and finished not long before the explosions.

    Indeed, at the end of the day, there are certainly things that are more important than money and it is a balance in finding that line.

    Thoughts and prayers for the city of Boston.
    Greg @ ThriftGenuity.com recently posted..Car Accident – The Effect on the Wallet – Part 1

    • Thanks, Greg. I wrote a post about how I was headed down to the finish line and for some random reason, I decided to head home at the last minute. Otherwise, I would have been there at the time of the bombings. What a day!

      Add in the current madness happening now (we’re all on lockdown because one of the potential suspects is on the rampage) and it’s been a hell of a week for this city.

      Thank you for your support!
      The Happy Homeowner recently posted..We Will Run–You Can’t Hide

  3. I can’t get over what is going on out there. I truly hope all is well. I got a text from NYT. All Bostonians should go inside. This is nuts. My prayers are with you guys.
    Jai Catalano recently posted..Debt Problem? 18 Ways To Solve It

  4. If things aren’t tight, I prefer “big-bucket” budgets, anyway, that are flexible for the various desires/needs of a real life.

    Thinking of you and your fellow Bostonians!
    Jenny @ Frugal Guru Guide recently posted..Your Shoes Are Not An Investment

  5. Hi Jen,

    First of all, I want to say that I’m so sorry about what you must have gone through in the past week. There are no words that are good enough to express my sorrow and grief for everyone who’s been affected by this. I just hope that this guy will get caught and Boston can begin to heal.

    In terms of your budget, I wouldn’t say you are abandoning it at all! The way you’re realigning your prioirites is the perfect example of how a budget should work in my opinion – sometimes things happen and the fact that you’ve found ways to meet those needs without spending more than you originally planned is brilliant. Shifting priorities is sometimes the only thing that can be done in an emergency and at least you don’t have to dip into savings or credit!

    Enjoy the time with your loved ones. I’m sure you need that far more right now than anything else. And please know that even people across the country are keeping you and your city in our thoughts.
    Shannon-ReadyForZero recently posted..10 Mental Barriers to Paying Off Debt: What’s Stopping You?

    • Hi Shannon,

      Thank you so much for your kind words!! It’s been a terrible week but the spirit and resilience of everyone here has been phenomenal. Yesterday was what we all needed!!!

      As for the budget, you hit the nail on the head–shifting the priorities is the first course of action that should be taken when things need to change. There’s no reason to immediately go to savings or CCs when you can just re-examine the plan and move things around a bit!

      I hope you’re having a nice weekend. Today is all about spending time with people, and I’m excited to unplug until tomorrow. 🙂
      The Happy Homeowner recently posted..We Will Run–You Can’t Hide

  6. Some times the budget needs to be changed, and that’s ok. This seems like a perfect example of when it is fine to change things around and focus on other priorities.
    Jennifer @ Money Aches recently posted..Preparing For A Garage Sale

  7. Your very reasons are the same I have for not keeping a budget at all. If I truly value something, I don’t want to not be able to do it because it, “Doesn’t fit in the budget.”
    Bobby @ Ban Excuses recently posted..We Have More Influence Than We Realize

    • I definitely agree about valuing something, but I like having a budget because it gives me a plan for the month. I still do need to track my numbers because those old habits (that can wreak havoc on my finances) can sneak right back in if I’m not careful.
      The Happy Homeowner recently posted..We Will Run–You Can’t Hide

    • Thank you, Jeremy! It was a scary week with a crazy ending, but I’m happy to report that we took a nice walk through the city last night after dinner and aside from the crime scene in Copley Square, it really was starting to feel more like normal around here.
      Jen (The Happy Homeowner) recently posted..We Will Run–You Can’t Hide

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