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Stop Comparing Yourself to Average

Since I am officially off honeymooning (YAY!), I have asked Jack Ryder from to fill in for me today. I have been getting annoyed by people comparing themselves to average and being ‘good enough’. You know what? Average is broke, and why would you want to compare yourself to broke?! Before I get carried away, I’ll let Jack take it from here. 😉

When it comes to money, most people try to get advice from their parents, friends, family and other people in their lives; in other words, the “average” person. The problem: The “average” Joe is getting his advice from the same people. This is how myths and bad information about money management spreads. In reality, keeping up with the Joneses has caused massive debt in this country. Here is why comparing yourself to the average American is not the best way to manage your money.

The average person spends more money than they earn.

According to recent numbers from NerdWallet, the average household debt in America is over $200,000, which is a staggering number. Granted, most of that debt comes from mortgages, but mortgage is still a massive debt, and in many cases, people are taking on mortgages that they can’t afford. Truthfully, that’s the main problem; people are spending more than they can afford on everything. Food. Cars. Vacations. The basic math is if you are spending more than you take in, you are putting yourself into debt.

The simple solution to this problem is to come up with a monthly budget and stick to it. Figure out how much your household income is, deduct any recurring expenses like mortgage or credit card payments, set aside a portion for savings, and the rest is what you can spend on food, entertainment and other expenses. If you spend more than the budget, you are spending more than you earn, and are putting yourself deeper in debt.

best personal finance articlesThe average person doesn’t have an emergency fund.

Most people have no or very little in their emergency fund, which can be a costly gamble. CNN reports that 68 percent of Americans are living paycheck-to-paycheck. This is an easy way to slip into debt. If something comes up, like a loss of job or costly home repair, and you don’t have an emergency fund, you can end up taking on major debt either on your credit cards or through a personal loan.

Paying for an emergency through credit or a loan not only puts you in debt, but that usually comes with a hefty interest rate, which means you are paying way more for your emergency than if you had money saved to cover it. Putting money aside for emergencies not only means that you are prepared, it also means you will save hundreds to thousands of dollars in interest.

The average person is not saving for retirement.

The Federal Reserve says that the median amount of retirement savings in the country is $60,000, and that number doesn’t include people who have no retirement savings at all. US News says that around 45 percent of people don’t have any savings for retirement, which is even more disturbing.

The biggest problem is that the average person doesn’t think they can afford to save for retirement, but even if you only contribute a small portion of your income, it can add up quickly. For example, a 22-year-old who makes $40,000/year and contributes only 1 percent of his or her income for the next 43 years can make up to $150,000 for retirement through a 401k. And if your company matches your 401k contributions, you are basically making free money. And don’t forget, all 401k contributions are made before taxes, so depending on your contribution, you may not even notice that big of a change to your paycheck.

20101213-FICO-credit-scoresThe average person has an average or below credit score.

According to Credit Karma, more than 75 percent of people have a credit score under 700. This is a major issue because your credit score dictates your interest rates, not only for mortgages, loans and credit cards, but also for things like insurance. The higher your credit score, the lower your interest rate, which – between a mortgage, car loan and credit card purchases — can save you thousands of dollars over the course of your life.

If you are one of the 75% of people who have an average or lower credit score, don’t stress, you can raise your score to a healthier level. First and foremost, start paying all your bills on time. Your credit history is one of the biggest factors in your credit score, so making sure it is clean from here on out will be a big help.

Second, improve your credit utilization ratio. This ratio compares your overall credit limit against your overall balances. So if you have an overall credit limit of $10,000 and your balances add up to $5,000, you have a ratio of 50 percent. The lower your credit utilization ratio, the higher your credit score. What can you do to lower your ratio? You can pay off some of your balances, which will not only help your credit score, but will save you on interest. You can sign up for a new credit card, which will increase your overall credit limit, and will help you build positive credit history.

The moral of the story here is don’t always trust the financial advice you get from the average person. Do your own research. Figure out what works for you, and stick to your own budget. Keep yourself as informed as possible about your personal finance options and soon you won’t have to settle for being average when it comes to your money.

Are you ready to stop comparing yourself to the broke, average person?



My name is Derek, and I have my Bachelors Degree in Finance from Grand Valley State University. After graduation, I was not able to find a job that fully utilized my degree, but I still had a passion for Finance! So, I decided to focus my passion in the stock market. I studied Cash Flows, Balance Sheets, and Income Statements, put some money into the market and saw a good return on my investment. As satisfying as this was, I still felt that something was missing. I have a passion for Finance, but I also have a passion for people. If you have a willingness to learn, I will continue to teach.


  1. It blows my mind every time I read a new report on retirement savings in this country. I wonder how these people think they will ever be able to retire. I understand that Social Security will help out some, but not that much. For everyone that talks about hating working for a living, very few are actually doing anything about it so that they don’t have to.

    • Yeah, I’m with you Jon. I guess people often have a “tomorrow” mentality – that they can put off being responsible until later. But, all the sudden, tomorrow will be here and they’ll be screwed – living a lifestyle far below what they imagined when they were in their younger years.

  2. I’ve actually heard people (even PF bloggers) recommend investing solely in index funds….you know what that is….it is the Dow Jones Industrial Average. It includes all of the losers with a couple of winners. Index funds guarantee you will never be better than average. That’s why we go with individual stocks and bonds.

    • I would never suggest investing solely in anything, but I invest a fair amount into Index funds – they’re inherently diversified and the average gains have been perfect for me. To separate yourself from the average though, you shouldn’t be investing in individual stocks (for many reasons provided in other articles of mine), Instead, look to invest in something that has a regenerative income – something like real estate. Have you ever considered this?

  3. It always surprises me how much people are not saving – for emergencies, retirement, etc. However, when you start to think about how much there is to spend money on out there in the world today, I guess I shouldn’t be surprised. People try to keep up with everyone else, the “average joe”, when they really should be focusing on themselves and what they can truly afford. In fact, they should be living below their means, not caring what other people think, so they can live a financially stress-free life! Unfortunately, I think I’m in the minority with my opinion…

    • Yeah, I think we’re both in the minority, Jen. After a while, it’s actually fun to live below your means. Sure, you might not be living in a mansion or driving a Bentley, but you’ve got thousands of dollars in the bank and a strong sense of security each and every day. I know I absolutely love it.

  4. I always find it crazy that people spend more money than they earn. Why would you want to be indebted to your future self? I think it comes down to the fact that people think they “deserve” these material things because of how hard they work. If they only realized that if they spent less and invested the excess money, they could work a lot less in the future, making it so you don’t need to purchase things to feel good. I remember reading a long time ago a line that somebody wrote – I wish I could reference them – but I don’t remember where I read it. It went something like this, “people work jobs they hate all day just to be able to afford to go for drinks and dinner to complain about those jobs all evening.”

    • Hi Rob. Thanks for the comment. I certainly don’t get it either, but I think your quote hits the nail right on the head. People would rather complain than learn how to become wealthy. The information is out there. All they have to do is look for it and apply it… but sometimes it’s just easier to complain…

  5. I love this concept. It’s easy to forget that the average person can look successful and be anything but. How often do we get to look at their financials to know whether their lifestyle is fact or fiction? That’s why the PF blogging community is so powerful. We discuss all that is taboo in finance: actual savings rates, rates of return, net worth, budgeting and, most importantly, financial blunders and pitfalls so that others can avoid them entirely.

    • I really wish that everyone had their net worth hovering over their heads when they drove around. Suddenly, those people in the Land Rovers wouldn’t feel all that impressive if their number was showing negative! You know, that’s pretty much how I view them at this point anyway though – they just don’t know it. 😉

  6. Nope, I definitely don’t want to be average or the “norm.” The “normal” amount of debt people have is astounding! I’ll stick with being a frugal weirdo!

    • Ditto! I am working on my next article about how fast investments can grow and even I am astounded. If only people knew how great it is to be weird!

  7. Some of these people that are not saving are actually not making much and I understand that can make things very tough. However many of the people living paycheck to paycheck buy tattoos, ipads, iphones, eat out all the time, drive expensive cars and take nice vacations among other things.

    Then when they lose their job and have no savings they tell anyone that will listen that its not their fault they don’t have any money. Pathetic!

    • Yeah, the “it’s not my fault mentality” really upsets me. If people just took responsibility and were honest with themselves, our nation as a whole would be 10 times better today.

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